1. Is that true?
YES!! It’s like time is my enemy.
2. Can you absolutely know that it is true?
No. When something unpleasant is happening, there is more than enough time. Ok, same side of the story. It just isn’t right for me. But can I absolutely know that there is never enough time? Can I know that I would be happier if there was enough time? Mmmh… No. I can’t know that I would be happier.
I feel sooo upset. Angry. Punished. Like a loser. I never get it all done. Overwhelmed. And I treat the people in my life as a nuisance, a disturbance. Boy, yes! I’m short with them. I don’t take time to talk to them. I brush them off. Seeing them as time drainers or stealers. Yikes!
I’m treating myself really badly too. Seeing myself as a loser for not getting more done. Getting so angry when I look up from my desk and it’s already much later than I thought! My thyroid hurts, my face is tense. My shoulders too. Grrrr…
Punished? Mmh, interesting. Yeah, it’s like I get short-changed by the universe. "You? You don’t deserve more time! You are a time waster! You better shape up first before we give you any more time!"
Oooh, and then I envy others who seem to be so productive and accomplish a lot. Separation. I try to find flaws in them.
Hah, and I end up being frozen in upset and get even less done. Like I throw in the towel and give up. Why even try?
l just took a deep breath. Wow – I would notice what’s around me. I lighten up. My tension loosens up immediately. I ease up. My negative self-talk melts. Yeah, I relax. The time issue loses importance. I almost giggle. Like "Boy, did I blow this out of proportion. Really wrapped up in a story." I come out of paralysis. Much better.
Turnarounds
There is always enough time.
Ok, I am not quite believing this turnaround, but I am definitely realizing that the original thought is not helping. Believing it, does not make me more productive. In fact, the opposite happens. So, it’s not a helpful thought to believe.
Now, let me try to actually go to the opposite.
– Well, there is always enough time to complain.
– There is always enough time to eat.
– There is always enough time to read email.
Hah! It’s all about priorities. Obviously, something else was more important. Or, secretely I don’t even want to get that stuff done. Mmmh, food for thought.
Filed under Self, Time, Work by on Apr 2nd, 2009. 2 Comments. 
I just heard that this program will no longer be available after Febuary 5th. 
Here’s what happened: I joined this 4-week-program with Mona and Giovanni. I did all the exercises they suggested (many of them using The Work to question my thoughts about food etc.). And a few weeks later (without doing any kind of dieting!), I noticed my weight dropping. Could it be that weight wasn’t only connected to what you eat but your emotions and thinking? I mean, it had to because here I was continuing to lose weight over a period of 6 months. I reached my dream weight that I haven’t had since I’d been 16. And: I haven’t gained it back! That was 2 years ago…
Anyways, when I saw that Mona and Giovanni were discontinuing the sale of this audio program (and other great ones too), I thought I needed to let all my friends know about it. And the great things is that it’s on sale now as well.
Hurry up and check it out. It will not be available after Febuary 5th, 2009.
Hope you read this in time. Don’t miss this opportunity. 🙂
Love,
Christine
Filed under Body, Self by on Feb 2nd, 2009. Comment.
1. Is that true?
My inlay that had cost a fortune came out after only 3 years. Yes, bad work! I got screwed!
2. Can you absolutely know that it is true?
I really do believe so. Well, I can’t remember exactly what they had promised but I do remember what the dentist said about their track record. They had done x amount of inlays and tiny x amount came back or something. Ok, I don’t remember exactly. I don’t remember whether they were actually promising me 10 year with a 100 %. Ok, I can’t know absolutely that they did a bad job. But boy, a big part of me does believe it!
I feel screwed. I see myself as a victim. Someone worth less. They did well with all the other people, so they must have cared less about me. Yeah, I tell myself that they didn’t respect me or that weren’t worried that I would come back and fight or sue or badmouth them. I mentally attack the dentist. My mind goes to all the times dental work was bad and how much bad luck I’ve had with dental work. I see all the money I’ve invested so far and it’s never paid off.
I wouldn’t take it so personal. Oh boy! What a difference. Yeah, I wouldn’t make it about me and attach all this meanting to it. It’d be a tooth that needs work. I would admit that I haven’t spent any money on my teeth for a few years, that I have put off necessary dental work for a long time without any major consequences!! Wow, what a difference not taking it personal. I feel a lot better.
Turnarounds
They didn’t do a bad job/ They did a bad job.
How can I KNOW what job they did and whether/what other factors influence die longivity and quality of the inlay? Eating, chewing, grinding in sleep, tooth quality, etc.
I did a bad job.
Could be just as true. By eating too hard stuff when this inlay is from ceramic. By insisting on ceramic than accepting the more durable and longer lasting gold filling. By eating that hard candy that pulled out the inlay.
Filed under Money, Work by on Dec 19th, 2008. Comment.
1. Is that true?
Yes. I’ve got enough on my plate. They shouldn’t be so self centered.
2. Can you absolutely know that it is true?
No.
Sad. Rejecting. Mentally attacking them. Separating from then. Seeing them as the villian. Being in their business. Unempathic. Annoyed. Lonely.
Not appreciating what the Are doing. Focused on me.
I am in direct opposition of what is. I feel like Rumpelstilzchen. Wanting things to be different than they are, when that is not in my business. Oooh, that’s a recipe for depression.
I would be much happier. Out of their business. Relaxed. Going with what is. And that could mean hearing where they are coming from, really listening, giving empathy as well as asking for support.
Oh boy, what a difference! Without this expectation I start to appreciate my friends again. I see what they are doing. Without the thought I don’t have a concept of how things SHOULD be. It becomes ridiculous. I hear Byron Katie say: "Open up, Rose! Open up! You should open up!" My friends should be more supportive – What was I thinking??! 🙂
I am just laughing, laughing, laughing inside. For the first time I see so clearly how it is ME who is making herself unhappy. I have this concept and I compare that to reality. Of course, I’ll be unhappy. Wow!
Turnarounds
They should not be more supportive.
– Truer! They shouldn’t when they aren’t.
– They shouldn’t because I get to see these concepts I have and how unkind I treat others when they don’t live up to that made-up standard.
– They shouldn’t because I just got to see that my unhappiness doesn’t come from their actions but from my thinking of how things should be.
I should be more supportive (of my friends)
– Yes. When I believe "They should be more supportive of me" I have no room for being supportive of them. It all shrinks down to what they are doing for ME.
– Yes. If I think it’s so easy for them to do, let me start with me.
I should be more supportive (of me)
– When I believe the thought "They should be more supportive of me", I am gone. I am over there in their business. Nobody here with me. No wonder I feel lonely.
– If I need more support, I should ask for it, instead of stewing in sadness and feelings of abandonment and overwhelm. That would be true support.
Filed under Approval and Appreciation, Control, Fear and Depression, Relationships by on Apr 5th, 2008. Comment.
1. Is that true?
It sounds too good to be true.
2. Can you absolutely know that it is true?
No. It might happen.
Sad. Disappointed. I try not to do anything that would hurt the chances of it happening. I notice how I am using this thought to protect myself from disappointment. I am in the future. Totally. Every little thing I interpret as proof that it probably won’t happen. The original excitment as the opportunity came up is dead.
Without the thought I’d be in gratitude for the opportunity that has come up. I’d be open. I’d definitely be more in the present moment. I’d come back into my life here and now. I notice what’s around me. Before my surroundings had kind of faded. I wasn’t really aware of them. Interesting. Oh, and I am much happier. The sadness is gone or just faintly there. There is some joy bubbling up. And I am away from making interpretations and assumptions of what it means about me if it doesn’t happen. Yep, much more peaceful.
Turnarounds
It is going to happen.
– Chances have gone from 0 to at least 50 percent. Before the opportunity came up I didn’t even have it in my mind as an option.
– She wouldn’t have brought it up if she had no intention on following through
Filed under Fear and Depression, Money by on Mar 27th, 2008. Comment.
